As was my grandmother. She died 11 years before I was born, but she used to tell my Mother when she was young to not go after the "pretty boys". They are too focused on themselves and will prove to be poor choices for husbands. I can honestly say, I chose VERY well with Decker. :-)
Now there is a study out that says our dream guy turns out to look much different than the fantasy.
Dream Lovers Can't Compare To Real Life Romeos
For all of my romance writer friends, you might want to take a look at this. :-)